Birthdays and funerals shouldn’t go together. But sometimes you can’t schedule things on the calendar.
This past week has been an eye opener for me.
Last Sunday my father’s mother passed away after serveral years of battling Alzheimers.
It is funny how a loss can make you see the true colors of people.
Tuesday was my birthday. But I stopped celebrating years ago. It’s just another day to me.
Thursday was the viewing and Friday was the funeral.
Then Saturday was the husband’s birthday.
I started living the Simple Country Life because it is so peaceful. You really don’t have to deal with people if you don’t want to. I have my animals that love me and I am surrounded by the beauty of nature.
Then when something like this happens I have to leave the comfort of my home, and deal with the people.
Thursday was a big eye opener for me. I was beyond shocked to say the least. 95% of the people that showed up to the viewing didn’t know that my Father had a daughter. Hmm… Let that sink in for a minute.
I let it upset me of course. Then Friday I got to see the one and only brother that I have after almost 11 years. That was hard. He knows what it feels like to be in my shoes. To feel like you don’t belong. And what I find strange is with all the family gathered around the only people that comforted me during this mess was him and his mother. (Which we have different mother’s but the same father.) She embraced me and told me not to let these people tear me down. Not to let them steal my happiness. It is their loss that they never knew me.
After everything was done and said… I retreated back to my safe haven.
I found several quotes that have spoken to me in the last few days:
In life, you will realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you. Some will use you. Some will love you and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who bring out the best in you. They are the rare and amazing people who remind you why it’s worth it. ~Unknown
I didn’t change. I just see things differently now! ~Unknown
As your get older, you will start to understand more and more that in life, it’s not about what you look like or what you own. It’s all about the person you have become. ~Unknown
With last week under my belt… I will not forget how it made me feel. But I will grow from this to be a better person. Words can hurt the most… But be a better person and let them guide you to become a better person.
Until next time,
Be you… No mater what others say to you. Learn, Grow, Teach, and Love.